July 04, 2013


What does freedom mean to you? A year ago, when I was traveling in France, I broadcast The Dr Laura Ciel Show from abroad on this very topic - FREEDOM

This was not my best show due to technical difficulties, but the discussion is very good.

So on this Independence Day in the United States, our 4th of July holiday, this word pops into my head again. What does freedom mean to you? And how do you create a sense of freedom within you and in your world?

I spent 20 years in a marriage where I didn’t allow myself to be free. I wasn’t honest about what I needed and I didn’t show up as me. I was playing the role that it seemed everyone else wanted me to play. And I did it quite well, until my mom died and I realized that we only have this one moment. There is no guarantee of another moment, or year or years.

This was the gift my mom gave me at the same moment I experienced the pain of losing such a loving and compassionate mother. Imagine the freedom in this. Suddenly you realize that you only have this one moment. How do you squeeze the most out of this moment? What gives this moment meaning?

I started realizing that I needed to make some changes in my life. I needed my moments to have meaning and purpose. I needed to be me and stop waiting for the right time to show up. Sadly, no matter how hard we tried, this was not possible in my marriage and we divorced.

Getting divorced was NOT the way to freedom for me. Those of you who know me a bit more and know the journey this path to divorce took (not a pretty picture), might think I am crazy for saying this, but the reality is that I needed to find freedom within me first, or it could never show up in relationship. I was told I was selfish and maybe you think the same thing.

This is what I know: We all must stand up for ourselves if we want to be able to stand up in a relationship with an intimate partner.

For me, standing up for myself was part of what I needed to do in order to create the sense of freedom I needed within me. This inner freedom that I have now created means taking responsibility for myself and not blaming anyone else. It means being honest about who I am and what is important in me. It means allowing myself to reconnect with my passions and listening to my intuition.

It also means not taking it personally when someone else judges me and not taking responsibility for anyone else’s path.

This is a daily practice for me and it is the basis for much of the discussion on The Dr Laura Ciel Show because I believe that you all also yearn for more freedom. You may not be able to control people and events around you, but you always have control over your own thoughts and actions. What would it be like to feel free within yourself?

When my private clients come to work with me, there is often the “presenting problem”. This is what motivates you to ask for help. It is part of my job to look beyond that crisis and see what you are asking for. What I often sense is a desire to be free of self-limiting thoughts.

Finding freedom within requires you to take responsibility for your life, all aspects of your life and really be honest with yourself. This is scary… but so worth it!

For all of you in the world, no matter where you are… I hope you continue to develop your own sense of inner freedom. As we all do this, it will start to be reflected in our world.

Post below and share with others:

  • How do you create freedom in your life?
  • When do you feel most free?