How Do You Give?May 04, 2014
Usually when one hears that word, we think of giving to another which is wonderful. Yet, if you only give to others without taking into account your own body, mind and soul are you truly able to give from that beautiful, wonderful space in a whole and unconditional way?
Think about your relationships at work and at home, with co-workers and people you just meet as well as children, partners and friends. Do you ever give and then feel resentment or anger later? Do you ever wonder why others aren’t giving more to you? That somehow no matter how much you give, you don’t feel you are receiving enough?
If we are honest, we have all felt that way at times… some of us more than others. What many of us grew up believing was “selfish” is just exactly what we need to do in order to BE there for others around us in an even more powerfully loving and giving way.
The really crazy part about the word “give” is many of us “give” but what we are doing is setting up a conditional contract without even letting the other person know. “I will do this for him, but he better do this for me or it means he doesn’t love me or he doesn’t care etc…) That is NOT very giving in my book. But it is often used as a way to “prove” one’s worth so it becomes more about ego and not at all to do with give. If I show how “giving” I am others will see that I am “good” or “nice” or “right” or better than others.
So you may recognize just the slightest bit of yourself here (I know I do, even though I don’t want to admit itJ), so what can you do?
My answer might surprise you…
Start giving to yourself! All the love and nurturing and caring that you want from others and maybe you give to others with the unconscious hope that they will give back to you… Start giving all the love and nurturing and caring to yourself. Love yourself up! What does this mean practically? What feeds your soul? What boosts your energy? What makes you feel serene and calm? What makes you feel all yummy inside?
Whatever that is for you is what you can do. Stop waiting for someone else to take responsibility for you and start giving to yourself. I just now that if you try this… you will give so much to those around you. First of all you will be modeling loving oneself to everyone around you and second you will be giving from that yummy fullness of who you truly are (in mind, body and soul) and what a beautiful gift you are!
Share how you give to yourself below with others so that we can all be inspired!