New Year’s Resolutions

January 17, 2012

What response do you have when someone asks you about yours? I push against it. I say I don’t “do” them myself, but then, I always have been secretly rebellious. I want my actions to have meaning in my life, so doing something because everyone else is doing it holds little interest for me.

However, I DO believe that the start of a new year is a natural beginning and I love to review the last years and reflect on where I want to go. Although I may not call them New Year’s Resolutions, I do set intentions for myself in the coming year.

When I set these intentions, I intend to achieve them, so I do not take it lightly. I may want to reach a particular goal, yet know that this is not the year. In that case, I put it on the back burner and focus on what I feel absolutely needs to happen in the next 12 months. This is one of the ways that I manage to make my “resolutions” a reality.

I have worked with so many people that want to set goals, at the New Year and at other times. I often try to talk them out of it if they don’t seem to be set up to make it happen. I notice that they love to talk about their resolutions, but are less committed to talking about how to make them a reality.

That may sound strange, but I don’t see the purpose of saying you will do something unless you intend to do your best to make it happen. Yes, things out of your control will arise and many other forces will push you to maintain the status quo. However, by setting yourself up to be successful, you have done much of the work already.

One of the biggest obstacles I see to attaining one’s goals is the lack of follow through. You can have a lot of inspiration, motivation, desire, clarity etc… yet this does not equal follow through. Follow through is the hard work part of setting goals.

If you are a runner like me, follow through is getting up at the horrible hour of 4:57am in order to meet a group for a long early morning run (notice I said 4:57… I wait until the very last minute and can get ready fast!). I may want to run a strong race, be motivated to do my best, be inspired to be the best runner I can. However, in order to reach that goal, I must follow through when I don’t feel like it, when I am tired, when I’d rather be snuggled up in a warm bed. This is the unsexy part of goal setting and most people ignore it.

However, by focusing on follow through, you increase the chance of attaining your resolutions dramatically. This is why I am offering a Master Your Life Women’s Group (sorry guys, you may have your chance soon) which will help 10 of you attain the goals you have set this year. Read more about this teleconference by clicking HERE. If you are interested, do it soon as I want to keep the group small!

In the meantime, here is a tip to help you get closer to attaining your resolutions! Be aware that follow through is an integral part of reaching your goals and it isn’t always fun or easy. In order to increase the likelihood of following though make sure you:

  • Outline clear action steps to reach your goal
  • Set up one or more people who are willing to hold you accountable for these action steps (very different from reminding you only of your goal because they will help you follow through with each step)
  • Identify all the obstacles you can imagine that will stand in your way and make a plan for busting through them

We will be exploring these steps in detail along with some other strategies in the Master Your Life group starting March 6, 2012 so check it out if you want to make your resolutions a reality!
And please share this with friends if you think they would be interested and post any comments below about what works or doesn’t work for you while taking action toward your goals.